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February 1, 2005
Built On Guilt?
By QBlog in
I seriously can't count the number of times I've heard someone say (or read it in an email) they feel guilty about some aspect of their Quixtar experience. Former IBOs feel guilty for the way they treated loved ones. Current IBOs feel guilty for not doing enough in the business or for not working as hard as others. Family and friends of IBOs feel guilty about not helping out so they become Members, Clients or IBOs. Guilt, guilt, guilt.
Tell me, is Quixtar Built On Guilt?
I don't really know but I've seen a bit of guilt lurking around our household in the past. It's been dealt with now but its presence was very real at one time. And the guilt is usually accompanied by embarrassment and low self-esteem, just to keep things interesting.
But are such emotions unique to the Quixtar experience? Or am I totally off-base in my anecdotal recollection of this "guilt phenomenon?" You tell me. Do you now or have you ever felt guilt in Quixtar? In any other business?
Comments
Well said ex-dd!!
I remember during our time in Amway, that the "love" was over-played. And genuinely they only "loved" us while we were paying into what they wanted.
Roger
the guilt and subsequent destruction of our sel-images is why I"m here.
All I have to say to someone who's really thinking about "coming out" of what I now see as the cult is this:
It's not YOU. It's them. It's not that you are a loser. It's that you're in a system designed to keep you losing so they can win. Yes, you "could" have worked harder. There are very few people on this earth who could say they give anything they do 100% all the time. But even after all your hard work, do you have anything for it but a bad taste in your mouth?
Like they say in the Holy Grail: RUN AWAY>>>>>>>>>
Such a guilty, sorry business.
If you are reading these comments and have doubt don't.Everything is true.After 16 years of A/Q ,I called and got off tape of the week,book of the month,quit doing 300 pv(purchasing and selling about $800.00) a month and going to functions.I had a few questions and my upline Saphire said he would get back with me and that was 9 months ago.They REALLY DON'T care about you and you need to do some research for yourself.
My mother- and sister-in-law seem to feel that BWW has truly changed their lives for the good. They love all the positive vibes they get at all the functions, and edification that takes place. If fact, my sis-in-law has gone eagle after about three years in the biz. I felt a little guilty after she STP to me because I felt that I was a lazy person, not being ambitious enough to go after my dream. It took me a while to realize that I already had my dream- happy family, a job I love, etc. For them, there is not guilt, as far as I can see. But there is a cultish feeling I get about their "happiness."
Yes a very good topic.
I infact felt uneasy, confused, and guilty the entire time in was in the business. The whole 6 months. :)
It just never felt quite right to me. The plastic-like emotions, the hype, the pressure to buy numerous products, etc. It didn't feel anything like a REAL business and at first I thought that it might be a good thing.
Funny how after i saw the BWW video for the first time at my first meeting, my initial thought was this seems to good to be true. But for some reason I just glanced over that thought and replaced it with excitement.
Proves once again to never throw out your first instincts.
I won't discount others' feelings of guilt associated with Quixtar; But I don't feel as if it is unique to Quixtar.
Not working "hard enough' could be a feeling of guilt in many businesses.
"guilting someone into buying something" is just a fact of poor salesmanship and is used often by amateurs and seasoned professionals.
"C'mon, if you buy today, I'll be eligible for the Quota Award, you wouldn't want me to miss that, would you?"
I can say I truthfully felt more guilt when I was a video producer. I felt like I "sold out" my environmental stance when I first accepted a contract with a well known chemical company. Also there were many times I told a bride, "she was simply beautiful" when nothing could have been further from the truth.
Building a Quixtar business has at one of it's core teachings the method of "calling" on those you know personally.
Guilt can be percieved by the potential client or the IBO, if they make these "calls" a personal issue, and not a business proposition. Proper training can avoid that.
A journalist would not feel guilt if he knew a friend would gain him access to a story, if the story was not a condition of the friendship. An auto mechanic need not feel guilty to tell his friends he opened a new garage, if he continued to spend time with those friends despite they were comfortable taking their car to their dealer.
The guilt is in the way some IBOs handle the "friends as clients." situation.
Qblog,
Heck yeah I've felt guilty. I am sure we've all felt guilty at one point or another. One guilty thing I face from time to time is, why was my life spared when so many others weren't? It's a little harsh, but I've been through numerous operations and rec'd a gift of life twice. That's why I take NOTHING for granted anymore, including this business.
I found the most disturbing guilt to be the expectation of religious/political association . Perhaps this was unique to the Florence group 10 years ago, but there was a heavy expectation that you would be a right-wing Conservative Christian and you were not only wrong, but you were responsible for many of the problems of the world if you were not. This was conveniently woven into the fabric of every open/function/builder's mtg, etc.
This was on top of the regular guilt that all your money should go to tools... if you had money for a vacation or any new personal item OR if you had free time to do anything not related to the business you were obviously not "committed" and not worthy of notice (you may lose your good seat next to your upline at the Waffle House meeting after the meeting at one AM and not get a good tape recording of his every thought on politics and religion).
All of the jobs I've worked at have been just ...jobs. Everyone had his or her own religion and (much-debated) political preference. We were all there for the paycheck and everyone knew everyone else had a life outside work.
I would think the guilt comes from the fact that you develop such close relationships with the people who are also involved. It's strange that relationships are so stressed so much in AmQuix. Until you realize that the relationship is what is supposed to build it, and is also what keeps people in, who may have second thoughts about doing this.
You would be very hard pressed to find another business that stresses so much on the personal relationship, even if you take sales into consideration.
I wouldn't really go so far as to call it a relationship. My definition would lean a little more towards coersion.
You can feel guilty in almost anything at certain times, I'll agree. But the guilt volume is turned wwwaaaaayyyy up in AmQuix
Guilt doesn't hit me so hard. It's more or less shame and embarrasment. Anytime someone I know makes reference to it and my involvement I grow quiet or try to brush off the subject. My own mother believes a few decisions I made in the past that affected the position I am in today was a direct result of Quixtar. I immediately grew defensive, but perhaps she was right. I made a few poor decisions in the past under the crutch of Quixtar and the dream that I would have never dreamed of doing had I never had any participation in the buinsess. For my mistakes and for the ones I might have hurt, the friends I made uncomfortable, and the hard working people I probably insulted, I extend my deepest apologies.
I've never been in "the biz". But I too have felt guilt. Guilt for not being able to save someone that I truely cared about from this businness. Then guilt for giving up on that person and moving on. But I dont feel guilty anymore, if she was too dumb to see this business for what it is, then screw her, I dont need someone in my life that is motivated by greed, and trust me, it was greed that drew her in.
Well, this is a very interesting site I must say. I myslef am an EXSTAR, so they say. I was in the business for around 6 months, and I had mixed feelings the whole time. I cant say that I really enjoyed my time, or the $15,000 dollars of debt that I took with me when I left. Of course, when you have that kind of problem, they will simply tell you,"I never told you to do that." Of course they say that, cause if they didnt, it would be illegal. I cant say that I put 100% into it, and all that other GUILT stuff. But I can say that I took more business, and self knowledge away from it than anything else I have ever done. Yeah, 50 years down the road I might say, "I wish I stuck to it." But its not likely to happen!! But, what I can say, is that I take responsibility for my own actions, and I blame nobody but myself. But, I did learn a lot, and knowledge is priceless.
I hope you all succeed in all of your business, and personal ventures, and realize that he who points the blame, is not worthy of success.
"Since 1999, IBOs have generated more than $4 billion in sales for Quixtar plus more than $300 million for Partner Stores, earning well in excess of $1 billion in bonuses and incentives"
Think about it. 1 million people in the business. $1 billion in sales per year. $250 million in bonuses per year. Lots of money, right? Well, that's $250/person on average. How much is the average person spending to earn that? Well, $1,000 on products alone unless they have retail sales - which they likely don't. Plus the money spent on tools.
Thinking about if further - if there are 2500 people making $100,000 per year in bonuses, or .25% of all IBOs, that's the $250 million. Or, 5,000 making $50,000 per year, that's all of it. But being that most of the money is distributed in little $15/month checks, there's not even that many. Realistically, your average sized big corporation - home of the much maligned J-O-Bs, creates more wealth for its employees each year than good old Quixtar.
I personally think that guilt is a useless emotion. If you did wrong, recognize the fact, apologize and make it right.
If some Ambot were to leverage guilt against me, they would get smacked up side their head.
I guess, that's why they mall-bots never get past their opening pick-up lines with me!
If you're in that Amquix mess and feel bad; get out! It's that simple. Trust your gut instincts, don't let others coerce your thoughts when your heart tells you otherwise
DF,
Quit referring people as "Bots". We are all human and have feelings too. Referring to people as "bots" is dehumanizing and degrading. It also shows the lack of respect you have for others.
Quick-X, interesting comments. Are you really out?
Victim of fraud: Who is responcible? Victim or Criminal?
Is fraud a chrime?
PS: Almost all of us have moved on. If that's what you want us to do. This blog just happened to be our favourite blog, as we share a common interest, i.e. discuss Quixtar. It's fun ;)
What a bunch of crybabies. Let's spend some quality time and get a website going that is all about negative wimps that are obviously making more money buying diapers at Wal-Mart. Tha quilt is coming from laziness and wanting to blame someone else and not taking responsibility. Go to your JOB and not perform and be lazy and not bring home a paycheck and see what you feel. It won't be happy, happy, joy, joy. Will you feel quilt?, You tell me.
I hope you weren't trying to sound intelligent crybaby.
It's not quilt, it's guilt.
Looks like you've been out showing the plan a little too late at night my friend. Go to bed, and wrap yourself up in your guilt,......er....quilt.
Michael,
After reading your comments I agree with you. However, would you consider crybaby's comments respectful of other humans? No.
Do so many other Quixtar IBO's insult others just like that? Yes.
Is that a common trait often seen amongst IBO's. Yes.
Do not the upline diamonds say similar things on tapes and on stage?
Are not robots programmed?
Do not robots do what they are programmed to do?
Are Quixtar IBO's spouting off the same things that their diamonds say in insulting mannerisms sound a bit "robotic"?
It all really boils down to the fact that the AmQuix "business" is run on emotions versus business logic and planning (the Dream and the facts don't count)
I have never read any post(s) on any blog (for or against) concerning how one increased their sales, profit (gross or net), volume,strategy, or the like.
Coincidence??
I don't agree with Quick-X. You can put a price on knowledge, schools do it all the time. His knowledge that Quixtar is a big scam cost him 15K.
I think he overpaid. :)
Maybe if he'd run across the Quixtar Blog or the associated forum sooner, he might have learned the same thing much cheaper.
Michael is right, calling IBOs "-bots" is dehumanizing... so is the "loser" tag on anyone not in, or who got out.
As to the "faith" of building the business with tools, I defer to the following:
[quote]Bertrand Russell -
We may define 'faith' as the firm belief in something for which there is no evidence. Where there is evidence, no one speaks of 'faith.' We do not speak of faith that two and two are four or that the earth is round. We only speak of faith when we wish to substitute emotion for evidence. The substitution of emotion for evidence is apt to lead to strife, since different groups substitute different emotions.[/quote]
Roger
Shawn,
Being an IBO myself, I agree with you that crybaby's comments were meant to be hurtful. If he's a true IBO, he would know from the tapes not to be insulting to others. Doesn't our church tell us not to judge others? I think crybaby needs to go to confession on Sunday ;-)
I do agree with you that we are programmed in certain things. You may call it "tapespeak" or "sheepspeak" or what have you. Humans in general are programmed in everything are we not? It starts at childhood where the programming begins. Take a look at a Job situation, aren't you programmed at your work? Think about the work lingo you use on a daily basis and tell me that's not a form of programming. TV is a big form of programming. So calling us "brainwashed bots" is basically like the pot calling the kettle black.
Being taught vs being programmed.
Interesting thoughts there Michael... which are exactly why you are not the cookie cutter IBO. You thought about and prepared an answer.
When I look at job "programming", I was never programmed in my job, I was taught what I needed to know, and then apply them as I needed to do the job.
When I was in the Corps, I reacted to my training to do my job. I did not have canned responses which did not require thought.
In security, both a guard and supervisor, up to when I was directing security for an entire apartment building's life/safety equipment and day-to-day procedures. I was taught (and taught my guards) what they needed to know to do there job... yes, there were certain things that wree not open to interpretation... like calling me anytime day or night if the fire alarm went off...(that could be called programming) but what they did in reaction to the alarm was dictated by the knowledge of what they can do depending on the exact situation. It required thought, and analysis.
If a resident had a problem, they were taught to handle it and I would see the report when I came in... if it got out of hand, they may have to contact me (or the police)...they were taught to handle the problem... not programmed to dismiss it.
As a computer repair tech, I was taught how to do my job the way the company wanted. And much like in the security days, what I did to repair the computer was dictated by the knowledge I had of troubleshooting, and the procedures to repair.
As for the "lingo", language specifically used in jobfields I hardly consider programming. That is just knowledge of terms. Much like Ruby, Diamond, Gold, etc... are you a jeweler or IBO? Same words, different uses, not programming.
There are comparisons I guess to JOBS that are equally "programmed' as being an IBO.... Telemarketer for example, they could be considered programmed, I mean geez, ever try to politely get off the phone with one of them?
"crybaby" could and should be considered programmed. You, I would not consider programmed.
And lastly, programming at a young age is true, and programming does not necessarily harm the individual, that is dependent upon the programming.
I remember teaching my daughter at a very young age to say "yucky" to McDonalds... I also remember as an infant before that changing her diapers and singing the can-can while kicking her legs up and down for her... after awhile, she kicked her legs on her own whenever she heard the music. She no longer kicks the can-can and eats at McDonalds (with her mom)
Michael, we don't have any special lingo at work. Nobody who left is labelled as loser. We didn't lose any respect for people who don't want to work here. Heck, we don't care if somebody say some thing not so nice about our product, services or business. So far, there isn't any. If it is, we sure won't call it, "Stinkin' Thinkin'"
If you are a true IBO, you might have heard Greg Duncan, He compare a person who choses a JOB over Quixtar is like a ....Donkey. Ever heard a tape from Dave Savern, Pigs don't know pigs stink?
What is brainwashed really? A person who refuses to think openly. Either this side or that side.
Apologies for not reading the entire thread
My experienes come from the World Wide Dream Builders part of Quixtar, only about 15% of thier total membership.
In response to the IBO's being programmed:
It is all about duplication. If you can do what someone else has done, that has what you want, what's to say that you won't succeed? I work at a major insurance company, and I want to try to duplicate my supervisor, because they became successful due to thier work habit, thier stick-to-it-iveness, etc. If I do what they do, and know what they know, what's to stop me from moving on up past the masses?
The same is for my business. If I duplicate my upline, who is about to retire, what's to say that I cannot acheieve similar success? The only thing that doesn't work in the business is... IBO's.
Also, about the guilt thing, I've not ever felt guilt. People feel guilt about the way they've treated thier family? It happens all the time! I got into an argument with my family, and I feel guilt. I get into an argument with the family about the business, and I still may feel guilt. People feel guilty about the way they've treated people because of the way they've treated people! We have to stop blaming others for our mistakes! This business doesn't -make- you feel guilty, just as it doesn't make unkind words come from mouths.
Perhaps the people that speak ill of the organization had bad experiences, but I've had nothing but good ones. The mentality of "I got one bad egg so the organization is terrible" is rediculus, and borderline idiocy. I had professors I hated, some who didn't know what they were talking about... does that mean the college I went to was bad?
About the "they don't love me attitude." I say get over it, or find someone who does. I put on that show for my parents, and found it wasn't true. And since IBO's aren't your parents, and perhaps you found a bad egg. Come join -us-! Our line of business is rocking right now, and you know what? I've been busy, and haven't really done anything lately. I still get the love. And -if- you're looking for love in a business, maybe your priorities need to be reassessed. Don't you have family?
Look... I can put up an effective argument against nearly any statement, and I'm only 19... I put out statements based on truth and personal experience, and I think that most naysayers of this need to have thier heads examined.
At the least, you save money on things you can already buy, at the most, you can make money. You get yourself into debt? You're a fool. An inventory is not required! Nothing is mandatory!
Guilt? No. I think we need to put the blame where it needs to go... not on the system, but on ourselves. You cannot fix the system, you can only change yourself.
Based on your observations, Q, EVERYTHING is built on guilt and Life is just one big Guilt-fest. Everybody has felt guilt at some point in their life. Guilt is not exclusive to any one thing. It is everywhere. To say that Quixtar is "built on guilt" because somebody has felt guilty about something related to their business or their actions or inactions in that business is rather a stretch.
But just for the sake of arguement, sure. Quixtar is built on guilt for all of the reasons you mentioned above.
However, many Christians feel guilty about how they approached people and tried to reach out to them. Some people feel guilty that they haven't reached out enough or as much as the person who sits two rows behind them every Sunday. Some people feel guilty for skipping church on Sunday.
So I guess Christianity is built on guilt too, right?
Except you don't save money on things you already buy.
That, along with the "tools" is the entire scope of why Quixtar/Amway turns people off.
Do I need my head examined because I do not see value in the products that are offered here? I have a price list, and most items would be ridiculous to even try to retail.
The only reason that I can think of as to why people pay more for their stuff is because they hope for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, and if it costs a few extra bucks to get to that point, it will all be repaid tenfold.
Less than 1% reach the pot of gold.
Marc, all I can say is .... I've read all that before from many people like you that have been in less than a year, I even said it myself at a time. WWDB does not "rock", and is not the best, cause Team says they are. You didn't get 'the good one'.. you got one... that's all.
Dwighty, yes...christianity is built on guilt. supposedly the son of god dies for "your sins" and you are born a sinner (no matter what religion is put upon your unchoosing infant self, and must accept god or be left to go to hell. yep, sounds like a guilt trip to me.
Thanks for the perspective, I haven't seen you around in awhile.
Roger
Mikey:
I thought you were done posting here? Another empty promise....(sigh)...
You are a 'programmed' Ambot. You regurgitate what is fed to you via tapes, books, functions, etc.
A real person can take words and symbols and translate their own feelings into INDEPENDENT thoughts.
There is nothing 'independent' about your business, nor your thoughts (as they pertain to this blog).
That's not a slam -- that is the TRUTH.
Marc:
I that sure that you, at age 19, were savvy enough to shop out all of the MLMs and decide on which one was 'the best'.
What's that? You didn't? Huh!
Puppy, stay on the porch. I hope you are getting some sort of REAL education to support all those tool-related bills!
After having been shown the plan a few years ago by my inlaws, I felt a tremendous amount of guilt. I felt guilty about being content with my middle class home. I felt guilty about enjoying my job. I am a Lutheran school teacher. I love my job, but I didn't go into it for the money. The benefits I receive from my JOB are far richer than what money can buy. I felt guilty about being content with what I have. I felt less than worthy because I didn't have some big " dream" that I needed to achieve. I guess with a healthy family, a vocation I enjoy, and a wonderful support group of loving, Christian friends, I feel that I 've gotten my dream fulfilled.
I have 2 step sons very hooked. My guilt is that I have looked at the facts and am unable to get them to see the real facts,not the "facts" as given by quixtar. Any time you spend thousands to amke hundres there should be a bell going off in your head. Add up the costs,gas,food,tapeor CDs,functions,monthly meetings. As a parent you want to do your best for your kids. I cannot get them to see the truth,thats my GUILT.
If it weren't for guilt, there would be no "Chrisitianity." So, yes, "Christianity" is the house that guilt built.
And here I thought Judaism had the guilt market cornered. Ever do something or say no to a Jewish mother? Now that's a lesson in guilt!
Anyway, it is tautology to think that if I know what someone else knows and do what someone else does, that I will receive the same things he does. It sounds logical on the surface, but when dig a little deeper, the reality is we are all different. We come from different experiences and bring our own seperate knowledge with us, and it means we take different things away with us. There are also "cosmic" forces at work. Take gambling, for example. If two people know the same things and do the same things at a poker table, will their winnings be the same? Of course not, because no matter what they know and what they do, they cannot control what's in the cards!
Besides, did you know, Marc, that less then 1 in 14,000 ever become a Quixtar diamond. If the only problem with the system is the non-working IBO, does that mean that there is only one hard working IBO in every group of 14,000? Of course not. The problem is the system itself. It is set up to churn and burn, and not for the majority to suceed in Quixtar. If there was true success, there would be thousands, if not millions of Amway/Quixtar produced millionaires today. In reality, there is probably no more then a couple of hundred, and that would include all the Van Andel and de Vos children.
I completely disagree with dmm. I think there is a lot of guilt built into certain denominations, but not all of Christianity.
I left the Catholic church because I felt like I was 'mourning' my faith instead of 'celebrating' it. (There is a great quote from the movie Dogma along the same line, but it slips me right now)
i know that I spend too much time here bustin the chops of the Ambots, but I am a pretty positive person all-in-all. So, it would be good of me to extend good health and prosperity to all who post here--Celebrate the life you've been given!
Guys,
Do you really understand the meaning of guilt? Let's take a look at the definition:
'Remorseful awareness of having done something wrong.'
One way to combat guilt is to forgive. Lets examine that definition for forgiveness:
'the act of excusing a mistake or offense'
Isn't THAT what the bible teaches us? Didn't Jesus die on the cross for our mistakes? I'm not a bible thumper by any means, but I have read it at one point or another in my life. I do understand the meaning of forgiveness loud and clear.
Mikey:
I think there is a difference between sin and mistake.
Sin:
A transgression of a religious or moral law, especially when deliberate.
Theology.
Deliberate disobedience to the known will of God.
A condition of estrangement from God resulting from such disobedience.
Something regarded as being shameful, deplorable, or utterly wrong.
Compare that def. to that of "mistake"
An error or fault resulting from defective judgment, deficient knowledge, or carelessness.
A misconception or misunderstanding.
Seems to me that the Ambot Army has a lot more 'deliberate' sins than 'honest' mistakes on its rap sheet. Karrrr-ma!
OK DF,
Still, didn't Jesus die on the cross for our sins?
Mikey,
Yes He did!
It still doesn't make it okay to purposely decieve our fellow man!
Your Ambot cohort is doing just that, and trying to justify their ways. I know it isn't right; that's why I'm here.
And I think there is a part of YOU that knows it isn't right either!
Well said df, I'd rather direct it to general practice then a specific poster, but truth in your post remains.
If part of me didn't know there is some thing fishy, I would be telling the name of Quixtar and Amway to every body, and won't hide under the name of 'Imran Enterprises'
I will be comfortable using the word eCommerce. Many prospects understood it was Quixtar when the heard the word 'eCommerce'
Supposedly Jesus died for all of man's sins. but didn't really die, he came back, then died again. IF you don't believe in that story, then it doesn't apply to you, and the "sins" of all mankind are not to be held over your head cause you were born. Also, by vontinually claiming that he died for "your sins", that is again saying you should feel guilty that he died for "your sins" and you should beg forgiveness from the appropriate (i.e. your) religion.
My religion says you might be right, you might be wrong... you got no proof of right, and your detractors have no proof of wrong... therefore I don't know and I don't care to bother with either, until one or the other is finalized. IF I find out when I die, so be it...at least I am honest with myself.
Roger
I dont agree with Lawdawg "If it weren't for guilt, there would be no "Chrisitianity." So, yes, "Christianity" is the house that guilt built."
Jesus took the guilt away, but you can feel conviction about a sin you are doing. Once you confess that sin to God and repent , the guilt and conviction are gone.
But if you weren't guilty, there'd be no need to repent.
No guilt means no need for Jesus to die for sins means no "Christianity."
Michael,
I'm going to heartily disagree with you on a few points there.
One you made reference to some combined church of Quixtar. What's the deal with that? Crybaby might not even attend a church of any kind. He is supposed to?
You furthermore, made reference to "true IBO". Come on now bud. That's like saying "true human" or "really living". A true IBO is one that paid up the fee to be in the game. Plain and simple.
Then concluding with the rest of your comment, you feel into exactly what it is that I'm referring to in the beginning. You spoke like a programmed Quixtar bot. Taken directly out of the mouth of your upline and into yours. Where is your individual thought process?
In addition, you lastly insulted myself. Did you learn that from the tapes? Simply on the basis that I am not in Quixtar you naturally, as programmed by your upline to do, is assume that I'm some mundane 9-5 that's going to be putting in 40 hours a week for 40 years and retire with jack diddly. My friend, your assumption is incorrect.
And finally, I don't mind being programmed. You were the one that took offense to it, not me. After all, my programming results in a modest yearly income, financial security, and an early retirement at 45 (due to actually being smart about money.) Maybe you should start drinking some of my Kool-Aid.
Shawn,
I'll have to pass on your kool-aid offer, but thanks anyways- you want one of my XS energy marguarita's? Really good with Vodka!
As far as the comment,
'Where is your individual thought process?'
I have a GREAT individual thought process!
"You spoke like a programmed Quixtar bot."
Uh-oh, the Mikey-bot phenom has started to catch wind...everyone is catching on!
Plus Mikey, Margaritas are made with Tequilla, not Vodka -- busted! Another Ambot tagline, de-coded!
You aren't hip or cool except to the dorks in your downline. They might buy you a cup of joe at the Denny's...awesome !!!
Get a life!
Hey Q,
The guilt pains begin, I think, when they get you "hooked" on being with the team, reaching certain levels.
*You missed the function!
*Your wife needs to be on the Ruby shopping trip!
*Your upline needs to be a bigger pin!
*You need to starch your shirts and look like a diamond!
*Anyone who wants to be a diamond, needs to buy an extra tape a week.
*Bill Britt or Paul Miller would'nt think like that.
*Go early and stay late..or you will not go Diamond
*DO it for your kids, wife, God,
Then you start thinking of what life would be if you did not get in or quit now which brings guilt.
And then when you know you want to quit, you go thru all the nausea forcing your self to go to meetings.
You think if you quit your letting your team and friends down, your wife, your dreams, your kids..
Then when you finally quit..No phone calls from your "friends" or "team"
and you silently slip away(except to post on Q-blog) to focus on your real dreams and play with your kids and night building memories with them, while watching Dora or Blues Clues.
Soon your guilt is replaced with the " How could I have been so stupid" type guilt,
and finally you let that go and get on building your life the way you want to.
Ahh...this has been good therapy..Thanks Q
Posted by: ex-dd | February 1, 2005 3:16 PM